By Lauren Scott, Staff Writer.
Most people will argue that college is a time to live it up; party through the nights with as many randoms as you can possibly meet at frat parties, and sleep through the day (without missing all of your classes of course.)
After two years of late nights adventuring and dancing with strangers, I’ve realized I have some fun (even blurry) memories, some crazy new friends, and some good stories to tell over casual meals…but I also realized I have received no real satisfaction from meeting hundreds of guys at college that only talk to me for a day or so.
See, college is the most amazing opportunity to bond with these hundreds of strangers of like age and form lifelong friendships, but it is an even better opportunity to date like crazy and figure out exactly what characteristics you like, love, and can’t stand in another person.
It can be fun to go to all the parties and meet the fraternity guys who seem as though they’ve been trained in charm and pick-up lines, or to try to catch the attention of a carefree girl in a snug dress out for the night, but I believe that type of thing is only truly exciting for a short period of time.
As I have observed couples on campus studying together, running together, working together, I have begun to realize that college is the ideal time to form an actual relationship.
There are so many reasons this type of relationship is convenient. Think about it:
You and your new love interest live maybe a block away from each other.
You’re both students so you’re likely to have similar schedules.
You don’t live with your parents and thus live under their rules.
You can have sleepovers.
You can have the same group of friends.
You can see each other multiple times through a day, even for a few minutes.
You can support each other through classes, interviews, auditions, etc.
It is easy to trust when you both know the same people, places, parties, etc.
Having someone at college who cares for you and shares your common interests, let alone intelligence level, can be such a great adventure in such a changing phase of life. College is about having a blast and learning to release inhibitions and fears, but it is more so a time to create things that will last, whether it be a career path, friendships, or a relationship.
I say go into college open minded! Go out and explore the places with the loud bumping music. Push your boundaries and meet new people in new atmospheres. Maybe get tangled up with a few strangers and test your moral code. Give someone a piece of your mind and heart. Everything in college is a learning experience. I used to think some of us just had bad luck fitting in at college, but trust me, if you let it, it will all be a crazy wonderful learning experience.
Check back Wednesday for another article by Lauren, “From High School Sweethearts to a College Relationship.”