Herewe looked at the top 5 things you should be doing at your upcoming orientation. Now, we’re taking a detailed look at how you can make real friends at orientation.
When it comes to meeting people, almost anyone can put on a smile, act friendly, and get along with people. Most people will meet someone, talk to them for a while, and then say “hey” to them if they see them in the future. There’s nothing wrong with that, but that’s not really a friend, and it’s safe to say all college freshmen want as many friends as possible. How do you really become friends with someone you meet out of the blue? That’s the million dollar question. Everyone has made friends in high school, over a period of time. But have you ever made a real friend in a 2 day span? Orientation is a wonderful yet short opportunity to make real friends, so you should go in prepared. Here’s the top 5 ways to turn the people you meet at orientation into real friends, instead of just acquaintances.
1) Meet. Orientation is full of people just like you, wanting to make friends and get their college social life off to an awesome start. Be as friendly as possible, and introduce yourself to everyone. Good conversation starters are your name, where you’re from, and some general interests (sports you play is always a good one). Again, be friendly to everyone! There’s no reason not to be, and it will only hurt yourself if you’re not.
2) Decide. You will meet a ton of people at orientation (I met over 100 people at mine), and there’s just not going to be enough time to get to know all of them. After having a short introductory name/hometown/interests conversation with someone you meet, decide if you guys have enough in common to potentially become friends. If you think there’s the potential for a friendship (or hook-up buddy, gf, or bf), then take the conversation to the next level.
3) Click. That next level is called clicking. Most people you meet at orientation won’t live in your dorm hall, so if you want to hangout and become friends with someone, you’re going to really have to click with them. Basically the three types of people you’ll meet at orientation are: 1) Friends. 2) Acquaintances 3) Person you don’t say hey to when you see them. Now if you have a conversation with someone and are friendly, you guys will probably end up as acquaintances. But to lay the foundation for a friendship with someone in such a short time, you need to click with them. Click with someone by talking about your similar interests, while throwing some jokes/humor in the mix as well. You’ll know if you guys click if everything goes smoothly and you’re able to have a entertaining conversation.
4) Numbers/stay in touch. If you click with someone enough in the short time you meet them that you think there’s potential for a friendship/thing, then exchange numbers! It’s not creepy in the slightest bit to ask for someone’s number after having a lot in common with them, even if you did just meet them. Once you get home, stay in touch with them over the summer, and talk about the stuff you guys have in common/about college. If you live in the same area as them, then hangout or party over summer.
5) Hangout when college starts/network. Now that you’ve stayed in touch and have a lot in common with your orientation friends, hangout with them when school starts! Not everyday, but go out with them or grab dinner once a week. You can also network if you make friends at orientation, because they’ll be spread out across many dorm halls, giving you the opportunity to go over to their dorm hall and meet even more people.
If you do this, and make some real friends rather than acquaintances at orientation, you’ll feel so much more confidant when you start college. Knowing that you already have friends at college before it starts is the best feeling in the world. Even if you already have friends from high school going, it can never hurt to have more. After all, college is all about meeting people and expanding your horizons, so go make some friends at your upcoming orientation!