I was one of those girls that was so set on not having a boyfriend when I left for college. I knew it was going to be a pain, and it was going to be difficult to stay in touch and still be a part of each other’s lives.
But yet, I am still dating the same boy I started dating in high school as I am a week away from finishing my freshman year of college. If you are considering leaving your current significant other for college, I personally suggest you re-evaluate your situation.
Almost everyone in the world will tell you it’s not a good idea to go into a college while in a relationship.
But honestly, it depends on the relationship. If you don’t think you’re than love, or you’re not in it for the long haul, the answer is obvious, break up. But, if you truly don’t have the desire to break up, then don’t. You never know what you may or may not find once you get to college. The last thing you want to do is break up with someone you love for someone that you haven’t met.
It’s entirely possible that you won’t find anyone you enjoy being around as much as your previous boyfriend/girlfriend.
If things don’t work out once you get to college, then that’s fine. At least you tried. I spend a majority of my free-time skyping my boyfriend. A lot of people would hate that. If the relationship is worth it to you though, then you won’t have a problem with it.
You will actually WANT to skip going out on a Friday night with your friends, to sit in front of a computer screen and tell your loved one about your day.
All of this completely depends on how much you value your relationship. Another side to this, if your anything like me, is avoiding “hooking up”. Being in a relationship gives you that barrier between you and the drunk guy that’s hitting on you.
Even if you’re slightly intoxicated yourself, you won’t forget that you’re in a relationship, which can save you from making drunken mistakes. There are a lot of factors that play into this. No two relationships are the same, and no two situations are the same. So this means that everyone will have their own way of dealing with the distance if you decide that’s what you want to do; you just have to find what works best for the both of you.
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