Long distance relationships are hard. You need trust and time. Without either, your long distance relationship may crash and burn. I hate to say that, but this is why you come to Welcome to College Freshmen, to get advice. Sure some high school sweethearts get married and have a lovely little picturesque marriage, but it doesn’t normally work out that way.
Speaking from experience, my ex boyfriend went off to college while I was a junior in high school and we were very in love. No really, we truly felt we could possibly get married one day. Looking back on it, it seems kind of silly that I would ever feel ready to be married at 16, but I was simply caught up in my emotions.
We thought skype, facebook, twitter, texting and all the other electronic gadgets would help us overcome the distance, but it actually hindered it. The main thing you need in a relationship is trust. Once distance comes in the picture, if you don’t have trust, then you don’t have anything.
I always saw pictures with my boyfriend, Ryan, and other girls or that other girls were so happy to have met him or updates from twitter about parties or drinking or anything and really there wasn’t that much time for skype; Ryan was very busy at college.
That’s the first thing you need to realize: College is a whole new life. You don’t have time for an old life at home. Relationships need time to thrive, so if you’re focused on a whole new life, it’s very difficult to focus on a girlfriend or boyfriend.
This can lead to feeling neglected and unloved, which sucks really, but college is the best time of your life and you should let your boyfriend or girlfriend enjoy it. They will be meeting new people and more importantly finding themselves. It is a time to explore and change and grow into who you’re supposed to be. You may not like the person your boyfriend or girlfriend develops into. You may find yourself being incredibly jealous of all the people that see him or her daily while you barely get to see them monthly.
That is the second thing you need to realize: Trust is important. If you’re having trust issues already, please break up. I promise you it’s so much better to end things on a happy note rather than to try to make things work out and grow bitter with envy and end with tears.
So decide what you want to do. You can break up now and still be friends, it is possible and it can be a lot happier this way. You can try to make things work and if you don’t need a lot of time and are extremely trusting, then good luck and I’m sure you’ll be happy.
So happy choosing little couples! Remember the main thing is to enjoy life and enjoy your time!